Relationships, Communication & Setting Healthy Boundaries: Intellectual Boundaries

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The 3rd Boundary is Intellectual Boundaries. These are boundaries you set to protect your thoughts and ideas. This week Lindsay Walden explores what setting intellectual boundaries means and gives a few examples of how these boundaries show up in your relationships.

Setting Different Types of Boundaries

As we work through this blog series all about boundaries, keep in mind there is a lot of overlap between them, and all of them will show up in unique and different ways in your life and your relationships:

Types of Boundaries

• Physical boundaries

• Emotional boundaries

• Intellectual boundaries

• Sexual boundaries

• Material boundaries

• Money boundaries

• Time boundaries

Intellectual Boundaries

Intellectual boundaries refer to your thoughts and ideas and how they are communicated and supported. In the following video, I talk more about how these types of boundaries show up.

Do you ever feel like your partner or spouse brushes you off after you just explained a thought, idea, or opinion? This is a violation of your intellectual boundary. It's time to strengthen that boundary and learn how to advocate for yourself.

Here are some helpful things to keep in mind about intellectual boundaries

• Think of a time you’ve had an idea of something you’d like to do or something you’d like to achieve.

  • You share this information with someone, and it’s belittled or dismissed.

  • This can be especially hurtful when you share information with your significant other and it feels unsupported.

• Setting intellectual boundaries means learning to respect and understand your own ideas and values while being able to advocate for yourself.

• Remember that not everyone will agree with you, but the mutual ability to “agree to disagree” is a respectful way to achieve a balance with this boundary.

• When dealing with emotionally charged topics such as politics and religion, this boundary is super important to respect.

Emotional Boundaries

Emotional boundaries refer to your feelings and personal information and the way you express these things. In the following video, I explain more about how this shows up:

Physical Boundaries

Setting physical boundaries refers to the boundaries you set in your life and your relationships that have to do with your physical space and physical touch. Here is the video I recorded for you about setting physical boundaries:

Boundaries are Like a Fence

In my blog 2 weeks ago, I talked about my fence analogy you can use when thinking about setting healthy boundaries. I have included the video explanation below:

Boundaries are Self-Care

Setting healthy boundaries is a form of self-care that allows you to love yourself and other people in your life well. You are the gatekeeper of your life, and it’s important for you to have a say in what you do and don’t allow in your life.

If you are always saying “yes” when you don’t want to or someone asks something of you that doesn’t align with who you are, you aren’t serving your own needs. There is such a thing as healthy selfishness, and healthy boundaries are part of how that can show up for you. What does it mean for you when you think of setting boundaries as a form of self-care in your own life and in your relationships?

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Your thoughts and ideas are so important. But that doesn't mean everyone deserves access to them or should get to know what they are. Determining who you can share information with that will respect your words and not dismiss you is very important for the relationship you have with yourself. Establishing this boundary with others can be awkward so to help you better understand this boundary, Lindsay Walden has some things to keep in mind as well as a video to help explain this vital boundary.

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