Relationships, Communication & Setting Healthy Boundaries: Sexual Boundaries

Relationship Communication Guide

As we continue talking about relationships and ways to improve your communication, I have a FREE Relationship Communication Guide you can download today to help kick-start your progress! In this guide, I give you my best relationship communication tips, suggestions and activities you can start to implement right away!

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Setting Different Types of Boundaries

As we work through this blog series all about boundaries, keep in mind there is a lot of overlap between them, and all of them will show up in unique and different ways in your life and your relationships:

Types of Boundaries

• Physical boundaries

• Emotional boundaries

• Intellectual boundaries

• Sexual boundaries

• Material boundaries

• Money boundaries

• Time boundaries

Boundaries in a relationship are incredibly important. They protect you and your partner, they let others know how to treat you, and they build the foundation for a strong, healthy, happy relationship. Sexual boundaries are about more than just sex. These are boundaries around how you are touched, talked to, and treated. When you and your partner are respecting each other's boundaries, you are able to have the fulfilling relationship you desire. The key is to know what your boundaries are and how to talk about them with your partner. Check out this week's blog post all about Sexual Boundaries to learn more.

Sexual Boundaries

Sexual boundaries are basically a combination of physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, and intellectual boundaries all wrapped up in one, but sexual boundaries are a distinct category that requires attention.

• When thinking about setting sexual boundaries in your personal life this means determining mutual consent, agreement and respect about whatever sexual activity is and is not going to happen.

  • These boundaries could be communicated by simply saying, “no” to sexual activity you do not want to engage in or it could be where you set limits or guidelines of what sexual contact is ok with you.

  • Feeling pressured to act in a sexual way or being forced into something is a violation of this boundary.

  • This boundary can also include any unwanted touching that feels sexual in nature.

• Sexual boundaries include not owing anyone details or information about your sex life or your current or past relationships.

  • It can feel really unpleasant to have to explain or share very intimate personal details about your life, so you get to determine what you share and what you don’t share.

Just because you are married doesn't mean you don't get a say when it comes to your body, your mind, your physical space. In fact, in order to have a healthy, thriving marriage boundaries have to be in place, and in order for them to be set, they have to be talked about. Check out Lindsay Walden's vlog on sexual boundaries, what they are, and how to set them so you can have the confidence to know what you want and what you don't want, and to talk about it with your spouse.

Intellectual Boundaries

Intellectual boundaries refer to your thoughts and ideas and how they are communicated and supported. In the following video, I talk more about how these types of boundaries show up:

Emotional Boundaries

Emotional boundaries refer to your feelings and personal information and the way you express these things. In the following video, I explain more about how this shows up:

Physical Boundaries

Setting physical boundaries refers to the boundaries you set in your life and your relationships that have to do with your physical space and physical touch. Here is the video I recorded for you about setting physical boundaries:

Boundaries are Like a Fence

In my blog 2 weeks ago, I talked about my fence analogy you can use when thinking about setting healthy boundaries. I have included the video explanation below:

Boundaries allow couples to grow closer together, to have a truly healthy, loving relationship, and to live a life of respect and consent together. Talking about your boundaries together ensures everyone is on the same page and allows for needs to be met and love to thrive through strong, authentic communication. It's so important for you to know what your boundaries are. Lindsay Walden walks you through them all and helps you figure out where you stand and how to talk about them with the people in your life.

Boundaries are Self-Care

Setting healthy boundaries is a form of self-care that allows you to love yourself and other people in your life well. You are the gatekeeper of your life, and it’s important for you to have a say in what you do and don’t allow in your life.

If you are always saying “yes” when you don’t want to or someone asks something of you that doesn’t align with who you are, you aren’t serving your own needs. There is such a thing as healthy selfishness, and healthy boundaries are part of how that can show up for you. What does it mean for you when you think of setting boundaries as a form of self-care in your own life and in your relationships?

Relationship Communication Workshop Updates

I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.

There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.

I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.

Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking the button below, and you’ll be the first to know about the relaunch of my Relationship Communication Workshop!!!

1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available

I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.

You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30-minute increments up to the total amount you select.

Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!

Follow Me On Social Media

You can follow me all over social media for more life and relationship tips.

• I can be found on Facebook where I do many live streams as well as post during the week.

• I can be followed on Instagram and in addition to posts on my feed, I am always in my stories posting help tips, tricks and ideas.

• I’m on Pinterest throughout the day posting tons of life and relationship tips!

• I’ve recently started using TikTok where I post helpful videos in 60 seconds or less with info you can apply to your life immediately.

• I’ve also recently joined Clubhouse, so if you have an iPhone or and iPad, you can find me on the platform by searching for @lindsay.walden