Relationships, Communication & Setting Healthy Boundaries: Material Boundaries
Relationship Communication Guide
As we continue talking about relationships and ways to improve your communication, I have a FREE Relationship Communication Guide you can download today to help kick-start your progress! In this guide, I give you my best relationship communication tips, suggestions and activities you can start to implement right away!
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Setting Different Types of Boundaries
As we work though this blog series all about boundaries, keep in mind there is a lot of overlap between them, and all of them will show up in unique and different ways in your life and your relationships:
Types of Boundaries
Physical boundaries
Emotional boundaries
Intellectual boundaries
Sexual boundaries
Material boundaries
Money boundaries
Time boundaries
Boundaries are so important and are the ultimate guide to a healthy relationship. One of the 7 different boundary types is material boundaries. This has to do with your physical stuff, like your car, clothes, jewelry, books, technology...and how you share it with others if you choose to at all. Read all about this boundary and watch the video to learn how to determine what your material boundaries are and how to communicate them with people in your life.
Material Boundaries
Material boundaries refer to your possessions and how you choose to use and share them with others.
This boundary could be violated when you let a friend or family member borrow something of yours and it’s either not returned or it is returned but it’s damaged.
It can also show up in your relationship with your significant other.
When thinking of this boundary, think of how entitled someone feels when it comes to your stuff.
This boundary can be violated quite often with family and how they may feel entitled to your stuff and resources.
You should never feel obligated to give of yourself in a material way, but if you do choose to give to someone in your life, take note of how they respect the agreement.
If they borrow money, do they pay you back quickly or do you have to continually ask for the money back?
This will be covered more next week in the blog specifically on setting money boundaries.
If they damage your items, do they offer to repair or replace them?
Have you ever loaned something out, like your clothes, shoes, purse, or books, and when you get them back there's something wrong with them? And your friend acted like they have no idea how that happened? This is an example of a violation of your material boundaries. Or maybe your partner or spouse uses your car and when you get it back, it smells awful. That's a violation and not something you should have to deal with. This week Lindsay Walden walks us through what this boundary looks like and how to set them with those in your life.
Sexual Boundaries
Sexual boundaries are basically a combination of physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, and intellectual boundaries all wrapped up in one, but sexual boundaries are a distinct category that requires attention:
Intellectual Boundaries
Intellectual boundaries refer to your thoughts and ideas and how they are communicated and supported. In the following video, I talk more about how these types of boundaries show up:
Emotional Boundaries
Emotional boundaries refer to your feelings and personal information and the way you express these things. In the following video, I explain more about how this shows up:
Physical Boundaries
Setting physical boundaries refers to the boundaries you set in your life and your relationships that have to do with your physical space and physical touch. Here is the video I recorded for you about setting physical boundaries:
Boundaries are Like a Fence
In my blog 2 weeks ago, I talked about my fence analogy you can use when thinking about setting healthy boundaries. I have included the video explanation below:
Boundaries are Self-Care
Setting healthy boundaries is a form of self-care that allows you to love yourself and other people in your life well. You are the gatekeeper of your life, and it’s important for you to have a say in what you do and don’t allow in your life.
If you are always saying “yes” when you don’t want to or someone asks something of you that doesn’t align with who you are, you aren’t serving your own needs. There is such a thing as healthy selfishness, and healthy boundaries are part of how that can show up for you. What does it mean for you when you think of setting boundaries as a form of self-care in your own life and in your relationships?
Just because you are married doesn't mean your spouse gets free rein to your belongings. It's not petty, childish, or selfish to want your stuff to remain the way you want it. Perhaps it's your favorite coffee mug that keeps getting used without your permission or it's your laundry that is washed or dried a certain way and this isn't respected. These might seem like silly things but they aren't. They belong to you and the other person needs to ask first. There's a respectful, healthy, and kind way to have these sometimes tough conversations. That's what Lindsay Walden is here to help you navigate.
Relationship Communication Workshop Updates
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.
There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.
I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking the button below, and you’ll be the first to know about the relaunch of my Relationship Communication Workshop!!!
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1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.
You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30-minute increments up to the total amount you select.
Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!
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