Relationships, Communication & Setting Healthy Boundaries: Money Boundaries
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Everyone has different money goals and sometimes those goals can be a challenge when hanging out with friends or in a social setting, especially if those goals are quite different. People see money in different ways, as well, and sometimes if their view is unhealthy boundaries are crossed which brings about some tension and stress. One way to alleviate this is to have strong money boundaries with your friends. Watch this week's video to learn more about this boundary and how you can navigate this in your friendships.
Setting Different Types of Boundaries
As we work through this blog series all about boundaries, keep in mind there is a lot of overlap between them, and all of them will show up in unique and different ways in your life and your relationships:
Types of Boundaries
Physical boundaries
Emotional boundaries
Intellectual boundaries
Sexual boundaries
Material boundaries
Money boundaries
Time boundaries
Money Boundaries
Healthy boundaries for every part of our lives are what sets us up for healthy relationships and healthy experiences. Money boundaries have to do with how you spend your money, save your money, and the financial boundaries you have with yourself, with your partner and family members, and with your friends. Lindsay Walden takes a deep dive into this boundary and answering some of the most common questions.
Going a bit deeper into setting material boundaries, setting money boundaries is a special type of boundary that needs some special attention in your life and your relationships.
Some things to keep in mind when thinking about setting money boundaries:
We all have a money story. A lot of times the way we grow up and the way that our parents/caregivers treat money has a direct impact on how we view it.
At its core, money is simply a tool used to buy and purchase the things that we need to survive. The emotions that get attached to money can be very intense.
Figuring out a financial plan and budget is one of the biggest struggles couples face but it is possible to get on the same page about it.
When it comes to lending money to others, try to remember that you don’t owe anyone access to your money unless you choose to give it.
Creating boundaries allows us to live our most authentic life, are a key component to keeping us safe, and creates clear communication where everyone is aware of the expectations. When it comes to money and relationships, this is the one area therapists see over and over again as a big stressor in the relationship. Learn what this boundary is, examples of this boundary, and how to handle it with those in your life.
Material Boundaries
Material boundaries refer to your possessions and how you choose to use and share them with others.
Sexual Boundaries
Sexual boundaries are basically a combination of physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, and intellectual boundaries all wrapped up in one, but sexual boundaries are a distinct category that requires attention:
Intellectual Boundaries
Intellectual boundaries refer to your thoughts and ideas and how they are communicated and supported. In the following video, I talk more about how these types of boundaries show up:
Emotional Boundaries
Emotional boundaries refer to your feelings and personal information and the way you express these things. In the following video, I explain more about how this shows up:
Physical Boundaries
Setting physical boundaries refers to the boundaries you set in your life and your relationships that have to do with your physical space and physical touch. Here is the video I recorded for you about setting physical boundaries:
Boundaries are Like a Fence
In my blog 2 weeks ago, I talked about my fence analogy you can use when thinking about setting healthy boundaries. I have included the video explanation below:
Boundaries are Self-Care
Setting healthy boundaries is a form of self-care that allows you to love yourself and other people in your life well. You are the gatekeeper of your life, and it’s important for you to have a say in what you do and don’t allow in your life.
If you are always saying “yes” when you don’t want to or someone asks something of you that doesn’t align with who you are, you aren’t serving your own needs. There is such a thing as healthy selfishness, and healthy boundaries are part of how that can show up for you. What does it mean for you when you think of setting boundaries as a form of self-care in your own life and in your relationships?
Relationship Communication Workshop Updates
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.
There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.
I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
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1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.
You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30-minute increments up to the total amount you select.
Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!
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