Creating Balanced Relationship Conversations
Relationship Communication Guide
As we continue talking about relationships and ways to improve your communication, I have a FREE Relationship Communication Guide you can download today to help kick-start your progress! In this guide, I give you my best relationship communication tips, suggestions and activities you can start to implement right away!
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When it comes to a healthy relationship and honest conversations, timing is everything. When you and your partner schedule time to talk, you are giving each other the respect and attention your relationship deserves. Keep reading to find out the steps to take to schedule a talk with your spouse.
Timing is Everything
There is a time and a place to discuss difficult topics, and it’s often a better idea of schedule some time rather than just springing it on them when you think of what you want to say. The goal is to create a balanced conversation where both people can discuss their struggles, issues or problems in a calm environment at at time that works for both people
Learn how to build a better relationship with your spouse or partner by scheduling big talks, conversations that might include emotions and lots of attention. When you take the time to intentionally set aside time to have these types of conversations you are setting the relationship up for success.
Tips for Scheduling a Time to Talk
You want to come to the conversation in a fresh state of mind if possible
Lindsay’s Tip: Use the HALT method and ask yourself the following questions:
Am I hungry?
Am I angry?
Am I feeling lonely?
Am I tired?
If you said yes to any of those questions, then it’s probably not the best time to talk about deep important things.
Add the date and time to your calendar like you would any other appointment and do not break it or miss it unless absolutely necessary
By scheduling your conversation appointment on the calendar, you’re making your relationship communication a priority
Don’t treat it like it’s just a one and done type of thing
For optimum relationship communication success, you want to have ongoing conversation appointments.
Create Balanced Conversations
In preparation for conversation appointment, I suggest you both jot down a few notes or bullet points you want to cover when you get to the appointment. Spend some thinking about what you want to say and how you want to say it. This also comes in handy if emotions get high. You will have some notes to refer to and you can make sure you are communicating what you are intending to communicate.
There are 5 steps to creating a balanced conversation. They are short and to the point and if you implement them in your relationship, you are bound to see a difference. Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide to get even more in-depth support on how to build a healthy relationship.
Steps to Create Balanced Conversations
Take turns sharing your feelings with each other and refer to your notes if you get stuck
Be direct
Be specific
Be kind and respectful
Try to phrase things using an “I-statement” rather than a “you-statement”
If you need help with or examples of how to use “I-statements”, my FREE Relationship Communication Guide gives you a step-by-step process you can follow. Just click the button below to download your own copy of the guide.
Relationship Communication Workshop Updates
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.
There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.
I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking the button below, and you’ll be the first to know about the relaunch of my Relationship Communication Workshop!!!
1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.
You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30 minute increments up to the total amount you select.
Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!
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I’ve recently started using TikTok where I post helpful videos in 60 seconds or less with info you can apply to your life immediately.
I’ve also recently joined Clubhouse, so if you have an iPhone or and iPad, you can find me on the platform by searching for @lindsay.walden
