Relationship Communication & How to Manage Emotional Projection
Relationship Communication Guide
As we continue talking about relationships and ways to improve your communication, I have a FREE Relationship Communication Guide you can download today to help kick-start your progress! In this guide, I give you my best relationship communication tips, suggestions and activities you can start to implement right away!
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When you are projecting you feel with every fiber in your body that your partner is the one causing your anger and pain. You believe without a doubt that your problem is one thing (your partner) when really it's something else. Let's dive deeper into this. Keep reading and watch my video where I explain even more.
What is Projection?
Projection is a psychological defense mechanism that you may subconsciously be using in order to deal with difficult feelings or emotions. It often involves projecting your feelings or emotions onto another person, rather than admitting to or dealing with the feelings.
Psychological projection is a common experience in relationships. It can show up in a variety of ways, but essentially it means you may be feeling an emotional reaction to something on a subconscious level and then you emotionally react to the trigger by taking it out on your partner. Because it is happening subconsciously, you may not realize this is occurring. Rather than processing through the emotions and having a courageous conversation, you start to project your feelings onto your partner.
In the next section, I outline some questions you can ask yourself to determine if you are projecting your feelings onto your partner.
Are You Projecting Your Feelings onto Your Partner?
Here are some questions to ask yourself to determine if you’re projecting your feelings onto your partner:
Do you find yourself annoyed by the little things your partner is doing?
If you don’t know whether you’re doing this or not, ask yourself if the thing you’re annoyed by would bother you if someone other than your partner was doing it…
Do you never feel satisfied by the efforts of your partner?
Do you always find yourself focusing on where your partner falls short of your expectations versus what they do accomplish?
Does it feel like no matter what they do, you’re just never happy with what they do?
Do you invalidate the concerns or emotions of your partner?
Do you find yourself always putting your feelings above theirs or acting like their emotions or feelings are less important or invalid?
The first step is to find out if you are projecting. You can find out if you are by asking yourself some key questions. Keep reading to find out the 3 questions to ask yourself and then to find out what to do if you are, indeed, projecting.
What To Do If You’re Projecting Your Feelings onto Your Partner
Step 1: Become aware you’re doing it
Awareness is the first step to help you stop projecting your feelings and with them in a healthy manner
Step 2: Start working to heal the parts of you that are hurting
This could include individual or couples therapy, coaching or consulting
Learn new coping strategies to handle and deal with your emotions
Create a “Same Team” approach to your relationship
This is one of many things I will teach you about in my Relationship Communication Workshop, and it’s such a helpful way to stop feeling at odds with each other.
Step 3: Start having courageous conversations in your relationship
Are you saying what you mean and meaning what you say?
My FREE Relationship Communication Guide can help you start learning how to have courageous conversations in your relationship
My Relationship Communication Workshop helps take the guide and apply it step by step into your relationship.
Learning healthy, loving, respectful, and effective communication skills can drastically change all relationships in your life. Lucky for you, I have a free relationships communication guide to walk you through the process. By the end of the guide, you will have the knowledge and support to reconnect and rebuild, making your relationship stronger than ever.
Relationship Communication Workshop Updates
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.
There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.
I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking the button below, and you’ll be the first to know about the relaunch of my Relationship Communication Workshop!!!
1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.
You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30 minute increments up to the total amount you select.
Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!
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