How To Overcome Communication Barriers In Your Relationship

Avoiding conversations in a relationship can be a difficult issue to navigate, but it is not uncommon. Sometimes, one partner needs space and time to process their thoughts, while the other may feel neglected and ignored. It can be frustrating and hurtful, especially when it feels like the issue is not being resolved. In this blog post, we will explore some ways that couples can work with and find solutions to this problem.

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First and foremost, it is essential to have courageous conversations. It is not easy to have difficult conversations, but they are necessary for growth and progress. The most important aspect of courageous conversations is picking a time that works for both of you to really have an important discussion. It is okay to tell your partner that you need them to carve out time because you would like to discuss some things that are on your mind. If your partner is someone that would get anxious not knowing the topic to be discussed, it is okay to let them know you are looking for ways to feel more connected.

If you’re not prepared to have the full conversation right then, you can give them a snippet of what you’d like to talk about so that they’re not completely left in the dark. It is crucial to keep communication open and honest, even if it means taking small steps at a time.

On the other hand, it is also essential to understand and respect your partner's need for space and time to process their thoughts. It is completely acceptable for someone to need time to gather their thoughts and figure out how they feel. In fact, thoughtfully responding versus emotionally reacting is always recommended. However, taking time to reset and gather your thoughts is completely acceptable. Still, it can start to feel like emotional manipulation to be on the receiving end of a “later“ that never comes. Therefore, it is essential to find a balance that works for both partners.

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One solution that couples can consider is setting parameters for the amount of time that passes before checking in with each other. For instance, some couples agree that no more than four hours will pass before they at least check in with one another. At that point, they can decide to take more time if needed, but they are at least checking in with each other in a relatively short time frame. Some couples can go much longer before a resolution, but it needs to be agreed upon with input from both partners. These types of parameters need to be put in place during a non-tense moment. Don’t pick the very middle of an argument to decide to bring up the concept of courageous conversation.

It is also essential to understand that triggers can occur, no matter how much time passes. It may be that many of those open loops are no longer that big of a deal, but if we don’t ever clear the buildup of those open loops, they just sort of sit there and fester. If we decide to keep on this path together, we begin writing a new script to follow. Whether we had a concept of what it meant to be on the “same team“ previously, we start building what that means now.

Communicate with confidence and navigate tricky conversations with ease using these helpful tips.

Here are 7 ways to work with your partner who is avoiding having courageous conversations with you:

1. Be patient and understanding:

Try to understand why your partner is avoiding having courageous conversations with you. It may be due to fear of conflict, anxiety, or past experiences. Show your partner empathy and let them know that you are there to support them.

2. Create a safe and comfortable environment:

Create an environment where your partner feels safe and comfortable to have conversations with you. Choose a quiet place where you won't be interrupted and ensure that your partner is in a good state of mind.

3. Use "I" statements:

When starting the conversation, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. This helps to avoid blaming your partner and creates a more open and constructive dialogue.

4. Listen actively:

Listen carefully to what your partner is saying and ask questions to clarify if needed. Don't interrupt or dismiss their feelings and try to put yourself in their shoes.

5. Use humor:

Use humor to break the tension and create a more relaxed atmosphere. However, ensure that the humor is appropriate and doesn't trivialize the conversation.

6. Take breaks:

If the conversation becomes heated or overwhelming, take a break and come back to it when you both are in a better state of mind. This helps to prevent escalating the conflict and allows both of you to process your thoughts and emotions.

7. Seek professional help:

If you are having difficulty having courageous conversations with your partner, seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance and support to help you communicate more effectively. I am a licensed therapist that specializes in Courageous Conversations, couples therapy, and sex therapy. I work with couples every day just like you. It's my passion and life's mission to help couples navigate the rough parts of their relationship and get back to a healthy and thriving life together. DOWNLOAD my free Relationship Communication Guide to take these steps even further.

Remember that having courageous conversations is an ongoing process that takes time and effort from both partners. With patience, understanding, and practice, you can build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship with your partner.