Relationship Communication & The 4 Agreements: Don't Take Things Personally

Relationship Communication Guide

Looking for a way to kick start your relationship communication? I would love for you to download my FREE Relationship Communication Guide with relationship tips, suggestions and activities you can implement into the communication in your relationship! Click the button below to get access to my Relationship Communication Guide and start improving your relationship communication today!

Marriage and relationships are hard work. What makes them even harder is when there's unhealthy communication and loss of connection. Couples who come to me for therapy are looking for help reconnecting and want to learn how to build a healthy relationship. If you, too, want to learn better communication skills, grab my FREE Relationship Communication Guide. #Relationships #CouplesTherapy #DontTakeAnythingPersonally #DontTakeThingsPersonally

The 4 Agreements

I wrote this recent post, where I introduced you to Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The 4 Agreements. Not only do I try to live by these agreements in my personal life, I use them in my practice to help my clients stay on the right track or reset when needed. They are simple agreements to make, but they are not necessarily easy to keep. These agreements are not meant to be used a way to judge one another or hold each other emotionally hostage, but rather they are intended to help create a foundation for success with yourself and in your relationships.

What are The 4 Agreements?

In case you missed my post where I introduced The 4 Agreements, I have listed them for you below. My last post was on the 1st agreement, Be Impeccable with Your Word, and in this post, I will be explaining more about the 2nd agreement, Don’t Take Things Personally. I will address the 3rd and 4th in the next few weeks in order to give you a better understanding of how to implement each one into your life.

• Be Impeccable with Your Word

• Don’t Take Things Personally

• Don’t Make Assumptions

• Always Do Your Best

If you would like an even deeper dive into this whole concept, you can purchase the The 4 Agreements book, and there is also a 3-book boxed set available that digs even deeper in the agreements and also offers insight into the 5th agreement. I’m sure I’ll end up writing a post about the 5th agreement too, so stay tuned for that!

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Don’t Take Things Personally

• Nothing others do is because of you

  • This can be so hard to remember sometimes… What would it be like for you to adopt this into your life?

  • Taking things personally not only hurts your relationships with others but it also hurts your relationship with yourself. It is a lot of responsibility to assume you have to manage everything that everyone in your life does.

• What others say and do is a projection of their own reality

  • This goes in line with the previous point, and it’s helpful to remember that it is true in both directions. This means that what you say and do is a projection of your own reality too.

  • So often in communication with others we feel attacked which leads to us feeling like we need to react and be defensive. How would it change your interpersonal relationships if you were to pause and remember that what others do and say is a projection of themselves?

  • Lindsay’s tip: Download my FREE Relationship Communication Guide, because I walk you through the steps of learning how to pause and respond versus just reacting emotionally.

• When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering

  • Rather than absorbing what someone else throws at you, I would encourage you to be a mirror.

  • This is where the concept of empathy comes in to play also. Imagine what they must be going through in their life.

  • This is not encouraging you to give someone an excuse to treat you badly, but rather to remember that what they do and say is a reflection of their own stuff.

My FREE Relationship Communication Guide

I would love for you to download my FREE Relationship Communication Guide with tips, suggestions and activities you can implement into the communication in your relationship! In the guide, I expand on all the important points to keep in mind when engaging in communication in your relationships. Click the button below to get access to my Relationship Communication Guide and start improving your relationship communication today!

If you make this ONE promise to yourself you will relieve yourself of so much stress, sadness, anger, and disappointment. Take that first step, read what that one promise is, and start practicing so you can start living free of the opinion of others. PLUS you get my FREE Relationship Communication Guide Relationships #CouplesTherapy #DontTakeAnythingPersonally #DontTakeThingsPersonally

Relationship Communication Online Workshop

I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I realize that not everyone wants to go through long term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.

What's Included?

• You will get access to a series of videos, activities and worksheets that are designed to help you dig into the various aspects of relationship communication.

• We will talk about The 5 Love Languages, The 4 Tendencies, The 4 Agreements and so much more.

• I'll provide you with actionable steps you can take to implement these tools into your relationships.

The Relationship Communication Online Video Workshop is now live online. Click the button below to get access and start improving your relationship today!

Here’s the link to get more information about the workshop. You can also find it and all my courses and variety of services on my Work with Me page. I am so excited to have you take part in this course!

1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available

I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you through this time, you can click here.

You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30 minute increments up to the total amount you select.

Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!

You can always reach me directly through my email lindsay@lindsaywalden.com if you have any questions or if you want to know if this is a good fit for you.

Coach Crate

I cannot speak highly enough about Coach Crate. This monthly subscription service has helped me stay regular with my own self-care in so many ways, and I would love to have you join me on the Coach Crate adventure. It would make a great addition to the other work you are doing to live your best life.

March is be all about Forgiveness and figuring out how to go about the process in your life. You can sign up with my link, and you’ll get to start on the Coach Crate journey. You can save money on your first order by using the code FIRSTBOX at checkout! I stalk my mailbox waiting it to arrive each month, and I know you’ll love it as much as I do!

Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay Podcast

Each new podcast episode is uploaded to my Therapy Thoughts Podcast Blog on the website Thursday afternoons at 2:00pm CST, and then it is shared to all the podcasting sites from there. It is also available on the Apple iTunes podcast site. You can subscribe, so you will never miss an episode!

If you want to check out last week’s Episode 28, here is the link.

I really am so grateful to all of you for your continued support, and I hope you’ll tune in this Thursday for Episode 29. Remember to make sure that you are following all my social media platforms so will know when each new episode is available. And, make sure you subscribe to my YouTube channel, so you will be able to watch the episodes once we start recording them on video as well as audio! We are so close to having the episodes available on video!!!

Follow Me On Social Media

You can follow me all over social media for more life and relationship tips.

• I can be found on Facebook where I do many live streams as well as post during the week.

• I can be followed on Instagram and in addition to posts on my fee, I am always in my stories posting help tips, tricks and ideas.

• I’m on Pinterest throughout the day posting tons of life and relationship tips!

• I’ve recently started using TikTok where I post helpful videos in 60 seconds or less with info you can apply to your life immediately.