Relationship Communication & The 4 Agreements: Be Impeccable with Your Word
Relationship Communication Guide
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Many will tell you all kinds of ways to more love and better relationships. Today, I will tell you of just 4 agreements you need to have with yourself to help fix your existing relationships and to help build better ones in the future. Keep reading to find out what those four rules are plus make sure you get your FREE Communication Guide! #The4Agreements #Relationships #BetterCommunication #BeImpeccable #PowerfulWords
The 4 Agreements
In last week’s blog, I introduced you Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The 4 Agreements. Not only do I try to live by these agreements in my personal life, I use them in my practice to help my clients stay on the right track or reset when needed. They are simple agreements to make, but they are not necessarily easy to keep. These agreements are not meant to be used a way to judge one another or hold each other emotionally hostage, but rather they are intended to help create a foundation for success with yourself and in your relationships.
What are The 4 Agreements?
The 4 Agreements are listed below, and I will spending the next few blogs to dig deeper into each one to give you a better understanding of how to implement each one into your life. This blog will be looking at the first agreement, Be Impeccable with Your Word.
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Don’t Take Things Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
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If you would like an even deeper dive into this whole concept, you can purchase the The 4 Agreements book, and there is also a 3-book boxed set available that digs even deeper in the agreements and also offers insight into the 5th agreement.
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Be Impeccable with Your Word
To be impeccable means to act in accordance with the highest standards. When thinking about how this applies to how you use your words, here are some things to strive for.
Speak with Integrity
Integrity can be defined as the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. Spend some time reflecting on the words you use. Do you feel they are coming from a place of honesty? Are they in accordance with your own moral standards?
Lindsay’s tip: Please remember that there is not just one moral standard that everyone should ascribe to. I’m just asking you to spend time reflecting on whether your words meet your own standards.
Say only what you mean
Do you stop and think before you speak? When we feel reactive, we tend to say things without thinking or without slowing down to make sure the message we are sending matches our intended meaning. A few blog posts ago, I gave you my Relationship Checklist for communicating, and I think it applies to this idea so perfectly.
As a recap of my Relationship Checklist, you can check out the post here. I’ve included the 3 questions on this checklist below:
Does it need to be said?
Dose it need to be said now?
Does it need to be said by me?
Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all…” This is not to say that you should be able to discuss things that aren’t going the way you would like them to, but the words you choose to use to discuss those things need to be thought out and done in a constructive way rather than out of anger or to cause hurt in someone else.
Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love
When working to be impeccable with your words and making sure you aren’t using your words to gossip or hurt yourself or someone else, you are helping to craft your words in the direction of truth and love. Being impeccable doesn’t mean you can’t discuss issues or problems, but it helps you to pause and make sure you are discussing things in an effective and productive way rather than just being emotionally reactive.
So many disagreements, hurt feelings, misunderstandings and communication struggles can be drastically decreased by learning to implement this first agreement into your life. In my FREE Relationship Communication Guide, I give you practice examples of how to start communicating more effectively in your relationships. I do hope you’ll check it out!
You have the power to build better relationships. The change starts with you. If you start with this one rule, the first agreement, you will be well on your way to stronger, healthier relationships. Don't forget to get your FREE Guide to better communication #The4Agreements #Relationships #BetterCommunication #BeImpeccable #PowerfulWords
My FREE Relationship Communication Guide
I would love for you to download my FREE Relationship Communication Guide with tips, suggestions and activities you can implement into the communication in your relationship! In the guide, I expand on all the important points to keep in mind when engaging in communication in your relationships. Click the button below to get access to my Relationship Communication Guide and start improving your relationship communication today!
Relationship Communication Online Workshop
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I realize that not everyone wants to go through long term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
What's Included?
You will get access to a series of videos, activities and worksheets that are designed to help you dig into the various aspects of relationship communication.
We will talk about The 5 Love Languages, The 4 Tendencies, The 4 Agreements and so much more.
I'll provide you with actionable steps you can take to implement these tools into your relationships.
The Relationship Communication Online Video Workshop is now live online. Click the button below to get access and start improving your relationship today!
Here’s the link to get more information about the workshop. You can also find it and all my courses and variety of services on my Work with Me page. I am so excited to have you take part in this course!
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If you want to check out last week’s Episode 27, here is the link.
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