Relationship Communication & The 4 Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions
Relationship Communication Guide
Looking for a way to kick start your relationship communication? I would love for you to download my FREE Relationship Communication Guide with relationship tips, suggestions and activities you can implement into the communication in your relationship! Click the button below to get access to my Relationship Communication Guide and start improving your relationship communication today!
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The 4 Agreements
If you have’t been following along with my recent blogs, I’m in the middle of a series all about The 4 Agreements. In this recent post, I introduced you to Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The 4 Agreements and I have had so many of you reach out and let me know how much this framework is helping you.
Not only do I try to live by these agreements in my personal life, I use them in my practice to help my clients stay on the right track or reset when needed. They are simple agreements to make, but they are not necessarily easy to keep. These agreements are not meant to be used a way to judge one another or hold each other emotionally hostage, but rather they are intended to help create a foundation for success with yourself and in your relationships.
What are The 4 Agreements?
In case you missed it, in this recent post, I introduced The 4 Agreements, and I have listed them for you again below for you to referrence. My post from 2 weeks ago was on the 1st agreement, Be Impeccable with Your Word, and in last week’s post, I explained more about the 2nd agreement, Don’t Take Things Personally. In this post, I will address the 3rd agreement, Don’t Make Assumptions, and then next week I’ll be talking more about the 4th agreement. I want to offer you some insight into these agreements in order to give you a better understanding of how to implement each one into your life.
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Don’t Take Things Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
If you would like an even deeper dive into this whole concept, you can purchase the The 4 Agreements book, and there is also a 3-book boxed set available that digs even deeper in the agreements and also offers insight into the 5th agreement. I’m sure I’ll end up writing a post about the 5th agreement too, so stay tuned for that!
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Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want
When you are interacting with others, do you speak up and ask questions when you don’t understand something? Rather than assuming the worst, what would it be like to get clarification?
When you want something, do you speak up and share your wants, needs and desires? Often times we will avoid sharing our true feelings for fear of how they will interpreted. We assume the worst rather than trying or putting ourselves out there.
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama
Anytime you find yourself assuming the worst, I encourage you to take a pause and look at things using logic in addition to the emotion you are feeling.
I wonder how much emotional energy is expended in worrying and making assumptions about the worst case scenarios in life.
Remember back to last week’s post when I talked about the importance of not taking things personally? That often goes hand-in-hand with the process of assuming things.
Instead of giving in to the assumption, try to ground yourself with what you do know and communication is the key to resolve any misunderstandings.
With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
If you try to start living by just one agreement, this one can be so life changing.
I love the quote by Susan Jeffers, “Only about 10% of the things we worry about every actually come true, so we basically spend 90% of our lives worried about things that aren’t true or never happen.”
That is a lot of time spent worrying, and I always remind my clients that worrying and assuming happen simultaneously.
My FREE Relationship Communication Guide
I would love for you to download my FREE Relationship Communication Guide with tips, suggestions and activities you can implement into the communication in your relationship! In the guide, I expand on all the important points to keep in mind when engaging in communication in your relationships. Click the button below to get access to my Relationship Communication Guide and start improving your relationship communication today!
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Relationship Communication Online Workshop
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
What's Included?
You will get access to a series of videos, activities and worksheets that are designed to help you dig into the various aspects of relationship communication.
We will talk about The 5 Love Languages, The 4 Tendencies, The 4 Agreements and so much more.
I'll provide you with actionable steps you can take to implement these tools into your relationships.
The Relationship Communication Online Video Workshop is now live online. Click the button below to get access and start improving your relationship today!
Here’s the link to get more information about the workshop. You can also find it and all my courses and variety of services on my Work with Me page. I am so excited to have you take part in this course!
1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
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March is be all about Forgiveness and figuring out how to go about the process in your life. You can sign up with my link, and you’ll get to start on the Coach Crate journey. You can save money on your first order by using the code FIRSTBOX at checkout! I stalk my mailbox waiting it to arrive each month, and I know you’ll love it as much as I do!
Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay Podcast
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If you want to check out last week’s Episode 29, here is the link.
I really am so grateful to all of you for your continued support, and I hope you’ll tune in this Thursday for Episode 30. Remember to make sure that you are following all my social media platforms so will know when each new episode is available. And, make sure you subscribe to my YouTube channel, so you will be able to watch the episodes once we start recording them on video as well as audio! We are so close to having the episodes available on video!!!
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