Relationship Goal Setting Reset Activity - Communication is the Key
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Relationship Goal Setting Reset
One of the consistent practices I ask all my clients to engage in is a yearly goal-setting reset activity. Over the course of my career helping couples, I started to notice how frequently there was not a shared idea of where the relationship was headed.
If you don’t know where you want to go, it’s very difficult to know if you’re on the right track. Not only that, if you never discuss your goals with your partner, there’s a good likelihood they don’t know what you’re wanting achieve and it can lead to a lot of miscommunication and frustration which can lead to resentment building.
Knowing what each other want out of the relationship and out of life is something every couple should talk about at least once a year. The Relationship Goals Activity is a simple yet effective way to lessen miscommunications and stop resentment in it's tracks. Check out my video where I walk you through the exercise. Grab your free Relationship Communications Guide while you are at it!
Relationship Goal Setting Activity
Some of the couples I work with complete this activity together while others prefer to do some individual brainstorming before discussing as a couple. My relationship goal-setting activity can be completed in about 15-30 minutes, but it’s always ok to spend more time on it.
Here’s what you do. Brainstorm and think about your list of short-term, midterm, and long-term goals, and then discuss them as a couple so you can make a shared goal list.
Below I have outlined how this activity works and I tried to give you some examples of what types of things fit into each category. Please use this as a guide, but feel free to make it your own and add in whatever you need to make it fit your relationship. Also, please don’t see this goal-setting activity as inflexible, but rather I hope you’ll see it as a guide towards a shared vision for where you are headed as a couple.
6-12 month goals
These are things you’d like to accomplish within the next calendar year
Often these include things like home improvements, savings/money goals, vacation and/or travel plans, etc.
3-5 years
These are things you’d like to accomplish within the next few years
They may be less specific since things change, so you may want to allow some room for the shifting that will naturally occur as time passes.
Often things in this category include moving, buying a new vehicle, larger savings/money goals, going back to school, making a big career change, family planning, etc.
10+ years
These are more long-term goals.
Start by asking where you want to see yourself in 10 years and what does that look like from a relationship perspective.
Often things in this category include paying off large debts (house, car, student loans), going on huge dream vacations, retirement planning, life transitions, bucket list ideas, etc.
There is no wrong way to do this activity. It is intended to help you and your partner get on the same page while reflecting on where you’ve been and where you’re headed.
Do you know where you want to be in the next 6mos, 12mos, 5yrs, or 10yrs? How about your partner? Do your plans match up with theirs? Knowing where you are wanting to go and making sure the one you are with is on the same page, going in the same direction, is a key piece to a healthy and thriving relationship. Check out my video where I talk more about the Relationship Goals Activity and why it's so important.
Relationship Goal Setting Reset Video
In the following video, I dig into this activity even more while giving you some pointers on how to make it a success and to help you incorporate it into your relationship year after year.
There's one exercise I have all my clients participate in and it's the yearly Relationship Goals Activity. This helps couples find out where they stand, what their individual plans are for the future, and if they align with each other's goals. Making sure each other are on the same page is very important to building a healthy relationship and to avoid the pitfalls of resentment and misunderstandings. Take the time to journal out your plans, talk about them together, and what your relationship grow stronger.
Relationship Communication Workshop Updates
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.
There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.
I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
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1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.
You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30-minute increments up to the total amount you select.
Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!
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