Relationship Communication & The 4 Agreements: Be Impeccable with Your Word

Relationship Communication Guide

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Your relationship could completely change for the better. In fact, all of your relationships, including the one you have with yourself, could change quickly by honing in and practicing this one thing. Check out Lindsay Walden's latest blog post to find out more.

The 4 Agreements

In last week’s blog, I introduced you to Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The 4 Agreements. Not only do I try to live by these agreements in my personal life, I use them in my practice to help my clients stay on the right track or reset when needed. They are simple agreements to make, but they are not necessarily easy to keep. These agreements are not meant to be used as a way to judge one another or hold each other emotionally hostage, but rather they are intended to help create a foundation for success with yourself and in your relationships.

Below is the video I did on the overview to give you more detail:

What are The 4 Agreements?

The 4 Agreements are listed below, and I will be spending the next few blogs to dig deeper into each one to give you a better understanding of how to implement each one into your life. This blog will be looking at the first agreement, Be Impeccable with Your Word.

• Be Impeccable with Your Word

• Don’t Take Things Personally

• Don’t Make Assumptions

• Always Do Your Best

If you would like an even deeper dive into this whole concept, you can purchase the The 4 Agreements book, and there is also a 3-book boxed set available that digs even deeper into the agreements and also offers insight into the 5th agreement.

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Be Impeccable with Your Word

To be impeccable means to act in accordance with the highest standards. When thinking about how this applies to how you use your words, here are some things to strive for.

In the following video, I dig into the first agreement and give you some suggestions on how you can start applying it to your life today!

In Lindsay Walden's latest video she talks about how you can form greater bonds, stay true to yourself, and be an all-around more honest and thoughtful person by practicing the First Agreement of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

• Speak with Integrity

  • Integrity can be defined as the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. Spend some time reflecting on the words you use. Do you feel they are coming from a place of honesty? Are they in accordance with your own moral standards?

    • Lindsay’s tip: Please remember that there is not just one moral standard that everyone should ascribe to. I’m just asking you to spend time reflecting on whether your words meet your own standards.

• Say only what you mean

  • Do you stop and think before you speak? When we feel reactive, we tend to say things without thinking or without slowing down to make sure the message we are sending matches our intended meaning. A few blog posts ago, I gave you my Relationship Checklist for communicating, and I think it applies to this idea so perfectly.

  • As a recap of my Relationship Checklist, you can check out the post here. I’ve included the 3 questions on this checklist below:

    • Does it need to be said?

    • Does it need to be said now?

    • Does it need to be said by me?

• Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others

  • I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all…” This is not to say that you should be able to discuss things that aren’t going the way you would like them to, but the words you choose to use to discuss those things need to be thought out and done in a constructive way rather than out of anger or to cause hurt in someone else.

• Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love

  • When working to be impeccable with your words and making sure you aren’t using your words to gossip or hurt yourself or someone else, you are helping to craft your words in the direction of truth and love. Being impeccable doesn’t mean you can’t discuss issues or problems, but it helps you to pause and make sure you are discussing things in an effective and productive way rather than just being emotionally reactive.

So many disagreements, hurt feelings, misunderstandings and communication struggles can be drastically decreased by learning to implement this first agreement into your life. In my FREE Relationship Communication Guide, I give you practice examples of how to start communicating more effectively in your relationships. I do hope you’ll check it out!

If you are looking to improve your relationship, enhance your communication skills, and just be a better person, check out the First Agreement of The Four Agreements. Lindsay Walden explains in her latest video what it means to be impeccable in your relationship and how you can practice this in real life.

Relationship Communication Workshop Updates

I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.

There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.

I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.

Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking the button below, and you’ll be the first to know about the relaunch of my Relationship Communication Workshop!!!

1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available

I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.

You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30-minute increments up to the total amount you select.

Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!

Follow Me On Social Media

You can follow me all over social media for more life and relationship tips.

• I can be found on Facebook where I do many live streams as well as post during the week.

• I can be followed on Instagram and in addition to posts on my fee, I am always in my stories posting help tips, tricks and ideas.

• I’m on Pinterest throughout the day posting tons of life and relationship tips!

• I’ve recently started using TikTok where I post helpful videos in 60 seconds or less with info you can apply to your life immediately.

• I’ve also recently joined Clubhouse, so if you have an iPhone or and iPad, you can find me on the platform by searching for @lindsay.walden