Relationship Communication & The 4 Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions
Relationship Communication Guide
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Are you wondering why you are always feeling let down and frustrated with your relationship? You aren't alone! These are all too common feelings but also ones that you don't have to endure anymore. This post is going to teach you how to stop making assumptions, speak your truth, and build honest and authentic relationships. Head to the blog to learn more.
The 4 Agreements
If you haven’t been following along with my recent blogs, I’m in the middle of a series all about The 4 Agreements. In this recent post, I introduced you to Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The 4 Agreements and I have had so many of you reach out and let me know how much this framework is helping you.
Not only do I try to live by these agreements in my personal life, I use them in my practice to help my clients stay on the right track or reset when needed. They are simple agreements to make, but they are not necessarily easy to keep. These agreements are not meant to be used as a way to judge one another or hold each other emotionally hostage, but rather they are intended to help create a foundation for success with yourself and in your relationships.
Below is the video I did on the overview to give you more detail:
Want to stop feeling frustrated or misunderstood and learn how to say what you mean while building an authentic relationship? Lindsay Walden is sharing the Third Agreement, breaking it down, and showing you how it relates to your life and your relationships.
What are The 4 Agreements?
In case you missed it, in this recent post, I introduced The 4 Agreements, and I have listed them for you again below for you to reference. My post from 2 weeks ago was on the 1st agreement, Be Impeccable with Your Word, and in last week’s post, I explained more about the 2nd agreement, Don’t Take Things Personally. In this post, I will address the 3rd agreement, Don’t Make Assumptions, and then next week I’ll be talking more about the 4th agreement. I want to offer you some insight into these agreements in order to give you a better understanding of how to implement each one into your life.
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Don’t Take Things Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
If you would like an even deeper dive into this whole concept, you can purchase the The 4 Agreements book, and there is also a 3-book boxed set available that digs even deeper into the agreements and also offers insight into the 5th agreement. I’m sure I’ll end up writing a post about the 5th agreement too, so stay tuned for that!
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Be Impeccable with Your Word
In case you missed the video about the 1st agreement, I have attached it below:
Don’t Take Things Personally
In the following video, I dig into the second agreement:
Don’t Make Assumptions
The video below is where I dig into the third agreement and give you some suggestions of how you can start applying it to your life today:
In this post, you are going to learn what it means to not make assumptions and how this impacts your relationships and your life. By learning how to ask questions, have honest conversations, and saying what you really mean, your relationship with yourself and others will dramatically change for the better.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want
When you are interacting with others, do you speak up and ask questions when you don’t understand something? Rather than assuming the worst, what would it be like to get clarification?
When you want something, do you speak up and share your wants, needs and desires? Oftentimes we will avoid sharing our true feelings for fear of how they will interpreted. We assume the worst rather than trying or putting ourselves out there.
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama
Anytime you find yourself assuming the worst, I encourage you to take a pause and look at things using logic in addition to the emotion you are feeling.
I wonder how much emotional energy is expended in worrying and making assumptions about the worst-case scenarios in life.
Remember back to last week’s post when I talked about the importance of not taking things personally? That often goes hand-in-hand with the process of assuming things.
Instead of giving in to the assumption, try to ground yourself with what you do know and communication is the key to resolving any misunderstandings.
With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
If you try to start living by just one agreement, this one can be so life-changing.
I love the quote by Susan Jeffers, “Only about 10% of the things we worry about ever actually come true, so we basically spend 90% of our lives worried about things that aren’t true or never happen.”
That is a lot of time spent worrying, and I always remind my clients that worrying and assuming happen simultaneously.
Relationship Communication Workshop Updates
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.
There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.
I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking the button below, and you’ll be the first to know about the relaunch of my Relationship Communication Workshop!!!
1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.
You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30-minute increments up to the total amount you select.
Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!
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I’ve recently started using TikTok where I post helpful videos in 60 seconds or less with info you can apply to your life immediately.
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