Relationship Communication & The 4 Agreements: Always Do Your Best
Relationship Communication Guide
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What does doing your best mean? It means that we are all doing what we can based on our individual capacity at that moment in time. It means that we have the ability to see others in a positive, empathetic, and compassionate light instead of negativity, shame, blame, and guilt. Understanding that you are doing your best doesn't mean perfection, it means showing yourself and others grace.
The 4 Agreements
I am still working through my blog series all about The 4 Agreements. In this recent post, I introduced you to Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The 4 Agreements and I have had so many of you reach out and let me know how much this framework is helping you.
Not only do I try to live by these agreements in my personal life, I use them in my practice to help my clients stay on the right track or reset when needed. They are simple agreements to make, but they are not necessarily easy to keep. These agreements are not meant to be used as a way to judge one another or hold each other emotionally hostage, but rather they are intended to help create a foundation for success with yourself and in your relationships.
Below is the video I did on the overview to give you more detail:
What are The 4 Agreements?
In case you missed it, in this post where I introduced The 4 Agreements, I have listed them for you again below for you to reference. My post from 3 weeks ago was on the 1st agreement, Be Impeccable with Your Word. My post from 2 weeks ago is where I explained more about the 2nd agreement, Don’t Take Things Personally. In last week’s post, I addressed the 3rd agreement, Don’t Make Assumptions. For this week’s post, I will be talking about the 4th agreement, Always Do Your Best. I want to offer you some insight into each of these agreements in order to give you a better understanding of how to implement each one into your life.
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Don’t Take Things Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
If you would like an even deeper dive into this whole concept, you can purchase the The 4 Agreements book, and there is also a 3-book boxed set available that digs even deeper into the agreements and also offers insight into the 5th agreement. I’m sure I’ll end up writing a post about the 5th agreement too, so stay tuned for that!
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You are always doing your best, especially when you intentionally set aside time to show yourself self-love, compassion, and understanding. When you understand that you are always doing your best and are committed to understanding that, taking time for yourself comes without guilt, shame, and blame that you should be doing more or that your best isn't good enough. You are enough. Click to learn more.
Be Impeccable with Your Word
In case you missed the video about the 1st agreement, I have attached it below:
Don’t Take Things Personally
In the following video, I dig into the second agreement:
Don’t Make Assumptions
The video below is where I dig into the third agreement and give you some suggestions of how you can start applying it to your life today:
Always Do Your Best
In the following video, I dig into the fourth agreement and give you some suggestions on how you can start using it in your life and your relationships!
When you realize that everyone is doing the best they can in that single moment and that you can never know the entire situation, you start to see your family, friends, and fellow humans in a different light. Loving yourself and others for who they are and showing up with empathy and compassion for all allows us to take the negativity out of the situation and see things for what they are. Click to watch the video where Lindsay explains what "Doing Your Best" means.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to when you are sick
Remember that always doing your best varies from day to day.
Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
It’s important to recognize that if you are always showing up as your best, you need to work to give other people the same benefit of the doubt.
Rather than assuming someone is doing their worst or has negative intentions toward you, it’s helpful to look at things through a different lens that maybe they are showing up as their best at that moment.
There are so many things that we can’t know by just looking at someone
The level of best is a subjective evaluation, but if you put the focus back on showing up as your best while recognizing that others are showing up in the same manner, it helps to neutralize a lot of the negativity that can arise.
Relationship Communication Workshop Updates
I have created an online Relationship Communication Workshop to help you dig into the communication struggles in your relationship and start getting things back on track. I have had a number of participants submit reviews and suggestions of different lessons that would be a great addition to the workshop. I want this to be as helpful as possible, so I have decided to listen to the feedback and expand the course to include even more relationship guidance.
There is an entire section that will be devoted to understanding even more about the love languages. I will also be providing you with more details into how to manage them in relationships.
I realize that not everyone wants to go through long-term therapy or the process of getting to a therapy appointment may not fit into your busy schedule. That's why I created this course. I wanted to provide you with a way to get access to the tools my clients get from me in my practice, but you can access the material from the comfort of your own home or wherever you are.
Download the FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking the button below, and you’ll be the first to know about the relaunch of my Relationship Communication Workshop!!!
1:1 Coaching Appointments Now Available
I am now offering a 1:1 coaching sessions for individuals as well as couples. If you would like to set up a 1:1 coaching video session to help you start working on your relationship, you can click here.
You get to decide how many minutes you’d like to purchase worth of coaching. Then, I’ll reach out to you in order to make the determination of how you’d like to use your time. We will decide how to split up your time in 30-minute increments up to the total amount you select.
Also, notice that the more time you purchase upfront, the more you save!
Follow Me On Social Media
You can follow me all over social media for more life and relationship tips.
I can be found on Facebook where I do many live streams as well as post during the week.
I can be followed on Instagram and in addition to posts on my fee, I am always in my stories posting help tips, tricks and ideas.
I’m on Pinterest throughout the day posting tons of life and relationship tips!
I’ve recently started using TikTok where I post helpful videos in 60 seconds or less with info you can apply to your life immediately.
I’ve also recently joined Clubhouse, so if you have an iPhone or and iPad, you can find me on the platform by searching for @lindsay.walden
